Anger Management

I was discussing protocols with a friend. At the end of a series of conversations, I couldn't figure out how to help them holistically address anything on a laundry list of actionable items which had been discussed. One common pattern throughout the chats, was that they would frequently fluctuate between a state of serenity and a state of agitation ( one might check for a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder ), based on external triggers, whereby their verbalisation of the experience would be anecdotally ( not logically ) related to past memories.

After multiple attempts at firefighting, I decided that a much more resource-conserving approach should be applied. I have decided that the one thing I will focus on helping them with is anger management.

"if you are angry with someone, it is your problem to act on"

"if someone else is angry with you, it is not your problem to act on"

Mainly this is the lens I will apply, when talking to them about it.

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In the end, some of us decide that feeling hurt from language use, is a security vulnerability which must be patched.

And while we can patch it in some people, other people are not receptive to being patched.

And while we can empathise with people infected by this vulnerability, they may not identify the pattern as a vulnerability, rather they may prefer that everyone ought to feel hurt from language use.

Thereby it is a culture war, of two programs attempting to eradicate each other, or to coexist.

Haha, timely reflection against the recent popularity of The Three Body Problem.