Me making friends with jocks* as an adult: I think in a decade I've dated maybe ... five? But it's been three in a row this year. (!!!) Well back then I had more important things to do, now I'm just bored, I suppose. I guess this is what it feels like to be a decade-and-a-half into retirement. Funny timing, I must say. Clubbing? Drugs? Are you people stupid, or something? Well guess what, I don't care anymore ... we can hang out, I guess, since it seems you also do other things now. Or did we all, each, respectively, run out of people to date ... and so this is what growing old feels like, when all social spheres converge.
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Back then I watched them care most for their friends, and lovers, now they have families, and co-workers - overall they still care about the same kinds of things, which I find to be rather daft. But that is what it is to be the socially attached sort of person, I suppose. So none of this was ever very surprising ... generally it was a matter of time, and consequence. Is anyone really any different?
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* I think for the purpose of this meditation, the term is roughly synonymous with "alpha socialites", not necessarily of an athletic predisposition, though the correlation is real. Maybe I just mean "socialites", IDK ... shit, maybe I'm actually edging towards that low-priority target of becoming a socialite, from 2008's goal-setting cycle.
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Come to think of it, some of my early heartbreaks simply involved explaining to such people how I understood our friendship, and having them get really angry about it. Over the years I've had more opportunities to just revolve the doors, and widen the top of the funnel - I still think the same, so I still talk the same, but I've met many more tolerant people, than I did when I was younger.
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Following conversation with a friend who said this sounded resentful:
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I think my point of view was that wasting brain cells just was not an alpha trait :p
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But arguably, if you waste braincells you end up mixing more with people who bet on social security, rather than against it. And this gets you into the crowd which cares about (dollar) because it's by definition the fiscally conservative crowd. Because people who care about their relationships, will tend to care about having enough money to build and protect those relationships. So it is competitively advantageous in terms of $.
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My own positioning has typically been to short the asset class of relationships in general, and to go long on individual study.
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🤷🏻♂️ people are different, but in the long run, everyone gets bored of doing the same thing, and extends their scope
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