On gazing. I was telling a friend, I spend half my life worrying that "my stare is too intense", due to various complainers. So generally I have a program to regularly reduce eye-contact duration with conversationalists who are new to me. In reaction to this, I have had feedback from potential investors (who later become er, friends), that my body language during pitches was not sufficiently robust due to my sporadic eye-contact. So in conclusion, I must say, it is best to just imitate the eye-contact pattern of your conversational partner, based on second-to-second feedback. Most people do not actively manage this. But some people do.
As for deception, we have to assume that anyone may be smart enough to lie through performance of whatever body language they presume to be suitable for the event.
So body language, like other language has to be read as "what the subject says," in the broader context of "pay less attention to what people say, than what they do."
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