How to use dating apps : a guide for straight women.

https://www.threads.net/@_jerng/post/DHknmbTT4od?

Straight women on dating apps.

If you're sick of the product, try this.

( I'm just repeating what I tell my bestie. )

• 1. No sugarcoating : all matching tools are MARKETPLACES.
• 2. Matching guys is like HIRING the right dudes at work.
• 3. It's a funnel.

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• 4. Dating apps are full of trash.

FUNNEL STRATEGIES

Ground Zero : before you start matching, make sure you've checked all these boxes :

- your profile states WHAT you want, and HOW a reader can get it

- your profile shows WHO you are, so a reader can WANT it

- it's really important to get this right, we'll see why below

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Pro-tip : expect desperados ... loads of men are going to try to match you WITHOUT READING YOUR PROFILE ... and even more are going to match you even if they think your profile doesn't match.

- that's just the nature of the game : straight women match 30% of their swipes, straight men match 0.03%, about a 100x difference

- but you got this : because ( Ground Zero : you already anchored )

- alrighty, now you're looking at an inbox full of ???, let's blitz through ways to knock'em out ASAP

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FILTER 1 : 

if you're into guys that READ : just start deleting matches that sound like they didn't read your profile. IT'S THAT EASY !

FILTER 2 : 

did the boys do their homework? Go back and look at that Ground Zero prep above :

- does their profile state WHAT they want, and HOW you can get it?

- does their profile shows WHO they are, and do you WANT it?

- No? DELETE HIS ASS. It's that easy.

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FILTER 3 : 

do you feel like you're doing all the work in the chat? Are they too quiet / monosyllabic / antagonising? DELETE HIS ASS. You ain't got time for this.

At this point, anyone who's left is has at least established superficial mutual interest. Now're getting to the serious parts of the interview.

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FILTER 4 : 

Dig deeper, and get dug. Ask about stuff they wrote in their Ground Zero - are you getting to know them better? Are they cagey / unexpressive? NO => DELETE.

Are they asking you about your Ground Zero - are they bothering to find out what you're about? NO => DELETE.

At this point, what's left is probably good for more chats online or over coffee ( or whatever you fancy ).

Next : how do you figure out who's LYING, and/or CONFUSED, and/or UNCERTAIN about their own interests? Drama!

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Epistemology : "fact checking".

FILTER 5 : 

now you're looking for stuff they said, that doesn't make sense.

You're asking for REIFICATION : they said SOMETHING, but can you get some examples of SOMETHING?

You're looking for COHERENCE : they said A THING, but that doesn't fit THE OTHER THING they said. Can you get some clarification?

When they can't reify or be coherent, you're looking to find out why : are they in need of help ( delete if you don't wanna help ), or lyin?

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Here's your chance to weed out some fuckbois.

Facts : Sex is fun, but not everyone wants the same thing. Loads of guys are lying to get sex. Loads more are playing Mr. Nice Guy, but they aren't so nice after it's done.

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FILTER 6 : 

if you WANT sex, then talk to men about sex. Don't dodge the subject. If you DON'T WANT it, then just tell them you're not interested in sex.

- talk to men about WHY THEY like sex. Ask them what THEY ENJOY about sex

- TACTICAL : find out what they're PROUD of, PRAISE them on it, let them BABBLE : you're looking for intent

A: the dude likes sex, because he feels good

B: the dude likes sex, because he likes making his partner feel good

Retain B. DELETE A.

JFDI. You got this. The end

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