I was talking to a friend of mine ( a self-identified bleeding heart ), about their work, in the care of other emotional wrecks. It made me think about the nature of emotional triggers, and the skew which is commonly observed. Here are some common ones. Each of these is expressed differently in women and men.
- 1. Loss of physiological security ( "does my body feel safe?" )
- 1a. Loss of verbal security ( "does my body feel safe, based on the words in my environment?" )
- 1a1. Loss of reputation ( "in a social network, will speech about me, reduce my security in any way?" )
- 1b. Loss of physical intimacy ( "do people want to touch me?" )
- 1b1. Loss of fuckability ( "do people want to have sex with me?" )
- 1b2. Loss of care ( "if I am hurt, will people work to reduce my hurt?" )
etc.
This is a good launchpad for a broader study, later.
There is an element of culture which I find most amusing.
Many people are getting into relationships because they are fearful of caring for themselves or being absent of care in the future.
I think those of us who are not oriented about this, are in the minority.
I suppose ... it takes a bunch of training to be ok with living and dying alone, while still maintaining the flexibility to interact with other humans for fun, only.
