I'm been thinking about girls that say, "is this real?" or "this is real," or "you're not even sure if that was real" ... in the context of the script of Gaslit where the character says "it" is not "real" when her boyfriend doesn't look her in the eye during sex.
I think it boils down to a certain type of person who isn't comfortable with detailed verbalisation of their internal cognition. Because this type can't recognise the use of semantics to a satisfactory degree, they infer based on intuitive trust (that is, at their convenience, without systematic empirical observation), that certain counterparts at certain points in time do share their own state of mind.
This is generally dangerous for people who project their own desire for intimacy upon others who do not share their state of mind. It is also awkward for other parties when the projectors discuss the realness of their mutual relationships, because their counterparts may generally guess about what is being spoken out of general politeness.
Reality is an interesting subject - more so when one or more conversants has doubts about their fundamental experiences.
I am not sure if it is better for me to swear off relationships with cognitively insecure people, or if I should devote more time to nursing their minds.
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