2020-01-20 at

Reflection: on Certainty in Relationships

/from various conversation/ Brief survey of ask/bid spreads I encounter in the relationship market:
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- category: CERTAINTY (abstract)
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- - looking for a formal contract (no problem; merc lord welcomes thee)
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- - looking for certainty of physical presence / comfort (this can be planned in the very short-term, days to weeks, but not much more, since I never know where my business will take me even a week into the future). Promises to do xyz forever are rarely within my universe. The logistical calculations are very *shrug emoji*
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- - looking for certainty of emotional commitment (I have little in this area to offer anyone; I think people who plan their lives around emotional commitments are foolish, and prefer that they be removed from the gene pool, in the interest of general progress... even if it may turn out that they are in the majority... even if it includes myself... and of course, that's a political statement); we may define emotional commitment here as assigning priority to subconscious systems in the brain to plot their own paths, and based on their own priorities

Someone once asked me what percentile they were in, in terms of 'being a good match' - I said 70-80... and they thought it was good. I said, no that's horrible if they expect to be the monogamous one, because a monogamous pairing is one out of 3-7 billion... Lol...

I think strategically, a monogamy-seeking person should always be aiming to socialise with people who are very much like their preference, so that they can hone down to the few super-select candidates lol

The error I see often is people don't build a funnel... and kinda just wait till they bump into someone who seems like a fit, but, since their sample size is small... the fit is improbable to be ideal.

*shrug emoji* just thinking about compatibility in general;


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