Dating things

Strange things I've encountered in the dating environment :

1. People who have a thought, and presume that you have the same thought, without an explicit discussion.

This is generally bad, bad, news, as it establishes all sorts of runny foundations for activity that needs to be worked out later. The best thing to do generally is to say, "hold up, we need to talk about this". This is problematic with people who don't like to talk about things, enjoy being in moments without risk management, and who are only turned on when their verbal faculties are turned off. Bad, bad news. Recommend to avoid.

2. People who have presumptions about what vague words like "relationship", "love", "feelings", "loyalty" mean, and how they are reified in practice. Recommend to discuss.

Safer things I've encountered :

3. People who know what they want.

• 3a. People who  ask for what they want, without taking it by force.
• 3b. People who can can explain what they want, if you ask them.

4. People who know what they don't want.

• 4a. People who tell you what they don't want, before you discover it by accident.
• 4b. People who can tell you what they don't want, if you happen to ask.

This is a non-exclusive list, whereas it would be nice to have a MECE framework, I'm just jotting this down between other work. Might get back to it later.