Op-sec : How do I confess my feelings?

V-day fills social media with questions about how to confess love. I wrote a short op-sec checklist for an anonymous enquirer, presumably not female, who asked about female behaviour.

There are some questions that come before the answers you seek.

• 1. How do I verbalise to myself, what I feel?
• 2. What is the least hurtful way to communicate what I feel, to the listener?
• 3. If what I communicate is accidentally hurtful, despite ( efforts to de-risk with 2. ), how do I de-escalate hurt in the listener?
• 4. If ( from 3. ) I fail to de-escalate, what is my exit strategy?

After you already lock all this down, it's much easier to answer the original questions ( roughly ) :

• 5. How I verbalise (1.) to the listener?
• 6. What is the risk of not executing (5.)?
• 7. Do female listeners want to be friends with the speaker under circumstances of (3, 6.)?