Re : "1. You are emotionally self-sufficient & happy
2. You are financially self-sufficient & happy
3. You are not dating in order to change 1 & 2"
From chat : Elements of a serious relationship for me 👍🏻. I know many people don't subscribe to this, haha. / Emotional dependency is a lower priority for me, and I will usually fiddle around with potential matches to see if they are too dependent on feelings and remove the ones that are lol. HIGH priority to red flag. LOW priority to green flag. / With regards to emotionally dependent people, the red flags are simply where they start costing me time. The green flags are counted only if there are near zero red flags hahaha. Say for example, a partner who likes to sentimentally lavish gifts on me, is not worth it if they expect me to worry about them on a daily basis. / Emotions that people have that don't cost me time are 1 not zero. No multiplicative effect. Emotions that people have that make me time, i will weigh as >1 multiplier haha. / I mean, if the partner imposes a cost upon me to address their concerns, it is their decision, and my reaction is to downgrade them. Free market. / Some people will be like "i need you to ask how i am feeling". Since i don't want to expend such energy, i simply reduce demand for their time. It is a shopping concern
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